Inspiration from the Couch

EP 59: Vulnerability Hangovers

September 15, 2022 Avery Hoenig, PhD, Jamie Wilson, PhD, and Lucy Smith, PhD Season 1 Episode 59
Inspiration from the Couch
EP 59: Vulnerability Hangovers
Show Notes

Lucy, Jamie, and Avery dive into “vulnerability hangovers,” which is what we experience after putting ourselves out in the world in some way (i.e., after we are vulnerable!). We define the common symptoms, including exhaustion, shame, regret, turtle mode (desire to avoid, withdraw), distraction, overthinking, overanalyzing, tenderness, headache, and insecurity. We explore how this comes up in our clinical work, as well as in our own personal lives. Discussed factors that influence whether or not we have a vulnerability hangover, as well as individual differences in this experience. Lastly, we talk about how to tend to ourselves during these difficult moments. 

Do Try This at Home:

  • Name the vulnerability hangover when it comes up. Put some words to it!
  • Do things to get out of your head so you can feel more grounded in the moment. 
  • Practice compassion and kindness towards yourself. Let all the feelings belong! 
  • Anticipate when this might come up, and prepare for how you might take care of yourself.